Why do people want to leave bad working relationships with Hurt and Hate?

hi sam, firstly im sorry your going through this, it must be very distressing for you (and your children). My partner is almost the same, i did split from him for 5 wks but in the end he ground me down and i gave in. What i have learned is that i am now in control of the relationship and he is no longer aggressive. This situation is really bad for you and your kids but you have to be strong and firm. it did get easier with him the more i stood my ground and he was threatening suicide and kicking my door in!! (of which he never did any when i called his bluff i may add) There are refuges etc all over the country if you are serious, but i feel your self esteem is so low you dont think you can do it sam. It is a control thing at the end of the day sam once you break it he cant keep hold of you. Good luck, i wish you the very very best sam.